Beyond "Hey": How to Write a Dating Profile Bio That Starts Conversations
So you've got your photos sorted—now what about the words? A great bio is your secret weapon. It’s the difference between a generic "hey" and a thoughtful message about your shared love for sci-fi novels. A blank bio is a missed opportunity. Let's turn that empty space into your greatest asset.
From Boring to Brilliant: Bio Writing Tips
Ditch the Clichés and Get Specific. Instead of "I love to travel," try "My goal is to visit every national park in Australia, and Karijini is next on my list!" Instead of "I like having fun," say "My perfect Saturday involves a farmers' market breakfast, a long bike ride, and trying a new craft beer with friends." Specificity gives people a real glimpse into your life and provides easy hooks for a message.
Show, Don't Just Tell. Instead of saying "I'm funny," demonstrate your sense of humour. "I can reliably identify any dog breed at the park, but my rendition of the 'Single Ladies' dance is a crime against humanity." This is far more memorable and engaging.
Include a Conversation Starter. End your bio with an open-ended question. This is an open invitation for someone to message you. Examples:
"Ask me about the time I tried to bake a soufflé and set off the fire alarm."
"What's the best concert you've ever been to?"
"Tell me your favourite hidden gem beach in NSW."
Keep it Positive. Frame your bio around what you do love, not what you don't. "Looking for someone who doesn't play games" sounds negative. Instead, focus on the positive: "Looking for genuine, open communication and someone to share adventures with." Positivity is much more attractive.
Proofread! A bio full of typos and grammatical errors can give the impression that you didn't put in much effort. Read it over once or twice, or get a friend to check it. It doesn't have to be perfect, but it should be clear.
A Simple Bio Formula to Get You Started:
Sentence 1: Who you are / What you're passionate about. (e.g., "Primary school teacher by day, aspiring star-gazer by night.")
Sentence 2: What you enjoy doing in your free time. (e.g., "You'll usually find me covered in clay at a pottery class or planning my next camping trip.")
Sentence 3: A light-hearted detail or your simple goal. (e.g., "Proud owner of the world's neediest cat. Looking for someone to share laughs and good coffee with.")
Sentence 4: Your Call to Action / Question. (e.g., "Tell me about the best meal you've ever cooked.")
Your bio is the bridge between a swipe and a meaningful conversation. By putting a little thought into it, you make it easy for the right people to walk across and say hello.